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July 23, 2021

Romantic relationships bring different changes to our lives. Some welcome, some not. In this article, five Nigerian women talk about how their partners changed their lives.  Bisola, 23 I grew up in a conservative space but I always knew I wanted to explore certain things and with the help of my current partner, I am […]

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July 22, 2021

There is a growing number of dating apps available to Nigerians living in Nigeria. In this article, three Nigerian women talk about using dating apps.  Dami, 27 I downloaded Bumble a few months ago. This is my first time using a dating app. I chose Bumble because my friend told me that the app is […]

July 22, 2021

Everyone has a story about their first time. In this article, eight Nigerian women talk about the first time they had penetrative sex. Nancy, 22 I didn’t bleed during my first time, probably because my boyfriend in secondary school used to finger me when we made out.  The first time a penis tried to go […]

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July 21, 2021

The subject of today’s What She Said is a 23-year-old woman who had an ovarian drilling surgery. She talks about PCOS and how it affected her mental and physical health, how unhelpful the doctor who diagnosed her was, and needing an ovarian drilling.  Tell me something about your childhood. Okay, let’s talk about my first […]

Nigerian women celebrating Ileya.
July 20, 2021

Ileya, also called Eid-el Kabir or ram Sallah is a great time to connect with family and friends over juicy pieces of fried ram. As with other things, women have a specific experience of Ileya that is often missing from the conversation. In this article, eight Nigerian women talk about celebrating Ileya.  Farida, 26  I’ve […]

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July 17, 2021

I was shocked to find out that after you turn 25, your body experiences a set of changes. They call it second puberty. Like the first one, it’s different for everyone. The changes could come at 30+ or there would be no changes at all. In my experience and that of those around me, here’s […]

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July 16, 2021

Everybody knows that Nigerian weddings are an experience. Aside from smoky jollof rice and the bride’s dress, one thing that keeps the wedding going is the bridesmaids — running from one corner to the other, making sure everyone is happy. In this article, three Nigerian women talk about being bridesmaids.  Labake, 30 My cousin asked […]

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July 15, 2021

As told to Mariam Last month, in a conversation about womanhood, Bee told me she had her uterus taken out. Curious, I asked more questions and here’s what she told me: The doctor found the first cyst during a routine ultrasound. It was 2014, and I was 18 and pregnant. The doctors didn’t know what […]

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July 14, 2021

A pap smear is a test carried out on cells from the cervix. It is often done to check for cervical cancer. In this article, six Nigerian women talk about getting pap smears.  Jennifer, 32 I was 22 when I went for my first pap smear. I had been reading about it, so I knew […]

July 14, 2021

The subject of today’s What She Said is a 22-year-old who wanted to be a lawyer but studied nursing because of her mother. She talks about being involved in her parent’s interests as a child, choosing sciences for her mother and the challenges of nursing school.  What’s your earliest memory of childhood? It’s memories of […]

July 10, 2021

A non monogamous relationship is any kind of relationship involves more than two people being involved sexually or emotionally. It includes but is not limited to polyamorous relationships, open relationships and swinging.  In this article, four Nigerian women share their experiences being in non monogamous relationships.  Bimbo, 22 I am currently in an open relationship […]

July 9, 2021

As told to Mariam I have always had these lumps on my body. My people say I was born with them, but they started as little brown spots before they became lumps. I saw them but I didn’t know what they were. I think I was six or seven when I was taken to the […]

July 8, 2021

Safe period is that mythical period in your cycle where you can have sex with men and not get pregnant. It involves a lot of mathematics and the gag is that you can still get pregnant during your safe period, so here’s a list of things to do to avoid getting pregnant. No, we are […]

July 8, 2021

We asked ten Nigerian women about their first time buying emergency contraceptives.  Here’s what they had to say:  T, 22 The first time I tried to buy emergency contraceptive, the pharmacists refused to sell to me because they thought I was a minor. I was 19 at the time. They asked me who wants to […]

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July 7, 2021

Sex can be a great stress reliever, especially in these Bubu times. In this article, six Nigerian women talk about the best sex they’ve ever had.  Solana, 23 In October 2019, I had the most mind-blowing sex. It was my first time trying BDSM. I didn’t know that I would enjoy it the way I […]

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July 6, 2021

TRIGGER WARNING: Abuse.  Editor’s note: In 2014, Ezinne* met Esther* and they dated for about three years before Esther got married. In this As Told To, Ezinne talks about the relationship they had and how they are both married to other people now.  When people can explain their childhood with one word, it’s always strange […]

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July 1, 2021

With inflation on the rise, more people are looking for more ways to double their income. In this article, 5 Nigerian women talk about making money online. If you are looking for how to make money online in Nigeria, this article is for you.  Temmy, 20  I create content for websites, ghostwrite ebooks and manage […]

man and woman in a toxic relationship
June 30, 2021

Not all relationships are smooth and sweet, some end with long-lasting trauma. In this article, five Nigerian women talk about their experience with toxic relationships.  Tife, 26, M I met Bobo at a birthday party in 2017. At the time, I was in a relationship with someone else but we were on the verge of […]

June 30, 2021

The subject of today’s What-She-Said is a 22-year-old woman who was ambitious out of spite for her primary school classmates. She talks about her brother wanting to kill her when they were both children, being bullied in primary school and finally finding community with herself this year.  What’s your earliest memory of your childhood? It […]

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June 29, 2021

Friendships provide some of the support required for us to bloom in life. In this article, seven Nigerian women talk about their platonic friendships with men.  Funmi, 22  I have a lot of platonic male friends. I find friendship with them therapeutic and less competitive than the ones I have with women. Also, men judge […]

June 26, 2021

Just in case you don’t know, sexism is prejudice or discrimination based on a person’s gender. A common example is an idea that women are inferior to men and so should only do certain things like cooking, taking care of the family, etc. While many may not agree with this, there are sexist ideas they […]

June 25, 2021

As told to Mariam Oyin* reached out to me when I put a call out for women to tell me about the worst thing a friend has done to them. In her message, she said her best friend and girlfriend at the time outed her. I was curious about how that played out and I […]

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June 24, 2021

Women’s bodies are often picked apart for banter or bigger issues that they are often not allowed a say. Because of this, a lot of women internalise shame around their bodies. I’m not sure what my favourite body part is but here’s 10 Nigerian women talk about theirs: Sade, 21 My favourite body parts are […]

Rich Nigerian Auntie
June 23, 2021

A rich Nigerian auntie doesn’t refer to those aunties from your father’s side that do nothing but comment on your weight and ask you when you’d be getting married. The rich Nigerian auntie is an aesthetic bigger than one person — and here’s how to be sure you are one… 1. You have the dress […]

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