7 Ways To Make Friends As An Adult

July 13, 2021

Friendships are harder to form as adults but easier to maintain, especially if you befriend people who understand that you’re both busy and have lives outside of each other but can make time when necessary. Here are seven ways to make friends as adults.

1. Stand on the road and beg people

You can have a megaphone with you so people know you are serious. Maybe two or three people would come up to you. You never really know. Sure, it’ll be to check if you’re mad or not but at least they’ll talk to you. And that’s the beginning of every friendship! 

2. Create a Google form

Post it on any of your social media accounts with the most followers. Title it, “The Friendship Document.” Reply to as many people that fill it out. The number one question should be “How do you feel about plantain?” You can tell a lot about a person from that. 

3. Meet your friend’s friends

Your friends have friends that have friends. Ask to meet them. Could this end in tears? Yes.  But life is pain anyway so don’t be afraid of a little disappointment and rejection.

4. Shoot your friendship shots

It’s so much harder to make friends as adults because everyone is horny as hell and low-key wants to sleep with each other. But if you can keep shooting your shot at that romantic love interest that airs you every day, I promise you can shoot your friendship shot.

5. Join clubs

Book clubs, gardening clubs, wine drinking clubs, hiking clubs. Try to find your tribe. It just makes the work easier.

6. Organise a 90’s themed party

Every day, there’s that one person who tweets about organising a party with bouncing castles, jollof rice, and everything that used to make kids’ parties fun. The number of likes and retweets on these tweets have shown that this is a good plan if you want to make new friends.

7. Upgrade some of your casual relationships

That person you always see at the gym, your coworker that is basically your work bestie, and so on. Message them and ask to hang out in an environment different from where you usually meet. You might be surprised at how much you like them. I say “might” because you might end up hating their fucking guts. The excitement of not knowing what the outcome of a hangout will be is half the fun sha so go for it.


Join The Conversation

Bring a friend.

You'll like this

Zikoko love life: best friends to lovers image
July 29, 2021

Teslim*, 28, and Chibuzo*, 29 dated for four years and have been married for three. Today on Love Life, they talk about transitioning from secondary school best friends to lovers, starting their tech careers together and how they struggled with long distances before marriage. What’s your earliest memory of each other? Chibuzo: My earliest memory […]

August 28, 2021

Sex Life is an anonymous Zikoko weekly series that explores the pleasures, frustrations and excitement of sex in the lives of Nigerians. The subject of today’s Sex Life is a 21-year-old straight woman who talks about being averse to sex for a long time, discovering that she loved BDSM through her ex and navigating sex with […]

Watch

Now on Zikoko

January 15, 2022

Emily has stayed in Paris and barely survived, but can she survive here in Nigeria? Read this to find out.

Recommended Quizzes

April 1, 2020

Everyone has a Nigerian bank that matches their personality. You could either be as likeable as GTB, as efficient as Access or as mature as First Bank. Either way, all you have to do is take this quiz and we’ll let you know with almost 100% certainty. So, go ahead:

how tall are you
March 11, 2020

Did your parents give you enough beans when you were growing up? If they did, then you’re probably around 6’0″ and above. Either way, we created a quiz that can guess your current height (pretty accurately, if we do say so ourselves). Take to see if we nailed it:

December 11, 2019

In the past month, we’ve made quizzes that guessed the last time you had sex, how many people you’ve slept with, and just how good you are in bed. For our latest attempt, we will use your taste in Nigerian music from the 2010s to ascertain what you’re like in bed. Take to find out:

October 30, 2019

2010 was a game-changing one for Nollywood, with our movies making serious cash and getting international acclaim. So, which of these hits released between 2010 and 2019 — from the pace-setting The Wedding Party to the divisive Trip To Jamaica — best suits your personality? Well, that’s what this quiz is here to answer:

November 20, 2019

Last month, we thoughtfully made a quiz telling you guys exactly when you’ll marry, but some of you claimed that your spouse was nowhere to be found. Well, now we’ve created one that’ll tell you exactly who you’ll be dragging down that aisle. Take and start planning that wedding: 11 Quizzes For Nigerians Who Are […]

More from Ships

December 30, 2021

We covered a lot of love stories in 2021 — thriving love, toxic love, love gone sour and everything in between and we are looking forward to doing more next year but before then here’s a list of love life stories you absolutely must read.

Watch

Trending Videos

Zikoko Originals

December 14, 2020
What happens when a group of chatty young Nigerians talk about things they're passionate about? You get Nigerians talk. A show that discusses very familiar struggles for the average Nigerian. From relationship deal breakers to sex education with Nigerian parents to leaving Nigeria, be prepared for a ride.
November 2, 2020
'The Couch' is a Zikoko series featuring real life stories from anonymous people.
October 26, 2020
A collection of videos documenting some of the events of the EndSARS protests.
June 22, 2020
'The Couch' is a Zikoko series featuring real life stories from anonymous people.
June 22, 2020
Hacked is an interesting new series by Zikoko made up of fictional but hilarious chat conversations.
June 4, 2020
What happens when a group of chatty young Nigerians talk about things they're passionate about? You get Nigerians talk. A show that discusses very familiar struggles for the average Nigerian. From relationship deal breakers to sex education with Nigerian parents to leaving Nigeria, be prepared for a ride.
June 2, 2020
Quickie is a video series where everyone featured gets only one minute to rant, review or do absolutely anything.
May 14, 2020
Isolation Diary is a Zikoko series that showcases what isolation is like for one young Nigerian working from home due to the Coronavirus pandemic.
March 12, 2020
Life is already hard. Deciding where to eat and get the best lifestyle experiences, isn't something you should stress about. Let VRSUS do that for you.

Z! Stacks

Here's a rabbit hole of stories to lose yourself in:

Zikoko amplifies African youth culture by curating and creating smart and joyful content for young Africans and the world.
X